Selena Gomez wanted to make sure she was good for Benny Blanco.
Three years after the “Good for You” singer and the record producer started dating, he shared insight into a conversation they had right before she revealed their relationship in December 2023.
“We kept our relationship private for a long time, about eight or nine months,” Blanco said in an interview translated from Spanish with El Pais published July 13. “And she asked me, ‘Are you sure you want to do this? I understand if you want us to just be friends.’”
But Blanco (real name Benjamin Levin) was ready to tell the world he loved Gomez like a love song, baby.
“I said, ‘You know what? Screw it,’” the 38-year-old recalled. “We’re lucky because we both have friends and family we’ve known since before all this, and we’re surrounded by a good group of people we love.”
Indeed, despite being married to one of the most famous people in the world, Blanco has learned to strike a delicate balance on what he shares.
“I don’t like to expose my life,” he explained. “Famous people are under constant scrutiny: if you say one thing, it’s wrong, and if you say another, it’s also wrong. I’d like to have more privacy.”
As he put it, “Maybe I’ll occasionally post a picture of my wife or some delicious dish I’ve tried, but I hardly ever post anything on my Instagram that isn’t work-related.”
But Blanco assured that deciding what to share comes especially naturally since being with his baby.
“She’s been dealing with this her whole life,” he detailed of the Disney alum, “So it’s something we have to face together.”
Meanwhile, Gomez—who previously dated The Weeknd and Justin Bieber—has emphasized that what she’s found with Blanco feels so rare.
“It's really nice to also lean on someone who understands the world that I live in,” the 33-year-old explained during an interview with Apple Music’s Zane Lowe in 2024. "I'd have to say overall it's the safest that I feel. It's been really lovely and I've only grown through it, so it's awesome.”
For a deeper look into how Gomez and Blanco’s relationship is anything but that same old love, keep reading…
Blossoming Romance
Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco began dating in July 2023, around Selena's birthday, Benny said on the Howard Stern Show in May 2024.
But they only began to spark romance rumors in late 2023. That December, Selena confirmed the speculation, commenting on a fan page's Instagram post, regarding Benny, "He is my absolute everything in my heart."
She continued, "Why has he been the best thing that's ever happened to me. He's still better than anyone I've ever been with."
The Rare Beauty founder also shared a photo on her Instagram Story of her leaning her head on what looked to be Benny's chest.
With This Ring...
Selena later shared this pic on her Instagram Stories, which shows her wearing a bejeweled "B" ring.
That Kiss
...including a pic of the two kissing.
Quality Time
Also in December 2023, Selena shared several photos of herself hanging out in New York City with Benny and their friends.i
Appreciating Art
Two days after Christmas 2023, Selena shared new pics of the couple at what appeared to be an art exhibit.
PDA Alert
Selena posted this pic of herself and Benny one day before New Year's Eve 2023.
Slam Dunk Date Night
The pair attended the Los Angeles Lakers' home game against the Miami Heat in January 2024.
Can't Keep Their Hands to Themselves
The couple packed on PDA in this February 2024 snapshot.
Happy Birthday Benny
Selena shared a tribute to her boyfriend on his 36th birthday in March 2024.
Birthday Tribute
"Happy birthday baby!" Selena wrote on her Instagram. "Your emotional endurance, positive disposition, unbelievable talent (that blows me away), undeniable humor and loving, kind heart absolutely kill me. I love you @itsbennyblanco."
PDA Alert
Selena included this kissing pic in her birthday tribute to Benny.
Naughty PDA Alert
...and these couple's pics as well.
Open Book
Selena celebrated the release of Benny's Open Wide in April 2024, captioning photos of the pair enjoying a cake shaped like his cookbook, "So proud."
Happy Fourth of July
Selena shared this pic of the two on Independence Day 2024.
Who Said "I Love You" First?
In July 2024, just ahead of their first dating anniversary, the two answered a viral "Who's Most Likely To" TikTok challenge, during which they were asked who was the first to say "I love you" to the other person. The answer? Selena.
Getting Cozy
Selena and Benny cuddled up in cute photos in July 2024 following her 32nd birthday.
Night Adventures
The actress captioned a gallery of summer photos, "Thank you for sharing your life with me today and everyday."
Beach Babes
The musicians soaked up the sun together on lounge chairs.
Dinner Date
Selena shared a silly pic of the two enjoying a bite.
Summer of Love
They're just loving each other like a love song, baby.
Incognito
The two were bundled up with masks on during one of their outings.
Pucker Up!
In another snap, Selena wore Benny's beanie as they pursed their lips for the camera.
Not Single Soon
The "Eastside" artist gave Selena a kiss on the cheek in a sweet summer snap in July 2024.
Good for You
He wrapped his arms around her in another adorable Instagram pic.
She Said Yes!
"Forever begins now," Selena wrote in December 2024, while revealing their engagement. Benny quipped in the comments, "hey wait… that’s my wife."
Golden Couple
The couple enjoyed a date night at the 2025 Golden Globes.
Red Carpet Debut
Benny and Selena made their first joint red carpet appearance at the 2025 Emmys.
Tying the Knot
The pair got married in Santa Barbara, Calif., on Sept. 27, 2025, with guests including Taylor Swift, Martin Short, Steve Martin and Paul Rudd.
Day of Thanks
The Only Murders in the Building star and music producer cozied up together for their first Thanksgiving together as a married couple, two months after tying the knot.